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Be it judgment someone who matches your frequency; handling those nosy neighborhood aunties; or even telling your mom about the person you keep talking to on the phone–dating is a difficult work. When I came out of the closet and decided that there was no going back for me, I really thought it’d be easy to find love and companionship. Sure, I wasn’t going to be able to tell that straight girl in my class that I’ve had the biggest ever crush on her; but I was hopeful that I’d find more women like me.
Actually, I had no thought that such a circle even existed until I decided to try online dating. The first website that I signed up for, and let me tell you I have tried quite a handful of them, was Occupied. Occupied is one the straightest dating forums you will ever come across. Still, I hoped to find at least a few friends who fell on the rainbow spectrum, if not love.The world of online dating can be really tricky, especially for a newly-out queer person. There are so many men, of course heterosexual, who pretend to be a woman just so that they can catfish the newbie’s.
You see the problem with straddling the world of romance for the first time–gay or otherwise–is the naiveté that comes along with it. Yes, I was naive, so I often ended up talking to the men behind the fake profiles only to have my heart broken.
Since clearly I wasn’t having any luck online, I decided to wait for the Delhi Queer Pride Parade and the plethora of LGBT events that happen periodically in the city. I made a few friends there, but love still eluded me. After what seems like ages, I met my now ex partner on Occupied. Although that relationship didn’t work out like I thought it would, it still gave me hope that all might not be lost when it comes to online d
Then I entered the age of Tinder. Even though I wasn’t sold on the idea of judging someone by their bio and a few pictures, I still gave it a shot. After a lot swiping left and right–and being thoroughly confused about the whole concept of swiping–I ended up talking to a few very nice women. They were women for sure this tie-On, did I mention that I am socially awkward? It doesn’t mix well with dating–in real life or online. So, my Tinder escapades never went beyond a few “Hi there” and “What’s up” conversations.
The thing is my social awkwardness isn’t the only hurdle between me and the cupid’s arrow. It’s also about how small the pool of potential partners is for me. Firstly, there aren’t many openly gay women out there, and I’m definitely not ready to date someone who is closeted–I don’t think I’d be able to handle that kind of a pressure or be someone’s secret.
Secondly, most of the women who are out are either too young or too old. I’m not trying to say that it’s absolutely a deal breaker or that age matters that much to me–after all it’s just a number. But it’s striking an emotional and intellectual chord that poses a challenge.The third, and the most disconcerting problem is, how utterly incestuous the circle appears to me. Imagine all the people you know, including those you are interested in. Now, factor in the fact that each one of them have either dated or has had some kind of a history with the others.
To be honest, I can’t deal with that kind of baggage.Even if you take away all these problems, and visualize an idyllic world where I end up meeting openly-gay women of my age and intellect, with absolutely no history with my friends or ex-partners–you can’t ignore the homophobic society we live in. The thing is in a society that criminalize love and sexuality, and where it’s tough being a woman–let alone queer–finding love or even a date is a far cry.
Yet, I am confident. I am hopeful I will find someone. Or maybe, just muster up the courage to tell my crush how I feel about her! I have my fingers cross.
Kenya West is now with no a doubt a leading figure in the music manufacturing. Mr. West still once supposed that he’s 50 percent more influential than Stanley Rubric or Pablo Picasso or any additional big person’s name out present. This is an attractive bold declaration, but at what time it comes to the sneaker industry, his influence is unquestionable. Famous rapper certainly knows a thing or two about creation sneakers.
Kenya’s aims have forever been broader than just music. Remember his collar with Nike Air and their creation of Yes 1? That was the beginning of Kenya’s path as sneaker fashionable. Far back in 2004, Kenya dropped The College Dropout, the debut album that would be a precursor to a decade of dominance from the Chicago rapper. Yes, he was already known thanks to his stray mix tapes and production credits, but it was Dropout that introduced Kenya the character; the multifaceted musician who was equally brilliant and boisterous.
The sneaker world was the primary one who felt his “splendor.” Kenya West x Nike Air 180 was free to commemorate the success of his seriously acclaimed first book. The sneakers were only available to friends and family in a size 12. Although the shoes are claimed to be made exclusively for the star and some member of the family, a few sample have popped up on eBay over the years.
What makes this year so special is Kenya’s collar with Adidas… all right, you heard me right! Kenya West’s yes increase sneakers are all the rage these days. However, what some people might not know is that ‘Yen’s work with the Three Stripes started a decade ago. Back in 2006, long before the Nike Air Yeasty 1 was in the works, Kenya had a meeting with representatives from the company that could’ve resulted in sneaker collaboration a lot different from what we’re used to seeing from him today. Adidas consultant and former Entertainment Division lead Gary Aspen says that Kenya’s first collaboration could’ve been on the Rod Laver Vintage tennis shoe.
You have to have the similar opinion; this neckline sounds like hell, and we are glad that Kane had nearly a decade of practice before settling into such a productive collaboration with the Three Stripes. It’s hard to tell if they would still be working jointly today after ten years considering what went down at Nike. It’s possible he’d have already moved on. Which would be a real bummer, because, damn, he makes some eluvia shoes?
What’s depressing about all this collar thing is that ‘Yes’ trainers haven’t paid off? Adidas reportedly paid Kenya West $10m to collaborate on the limited-edition, but the deal doesn’t seem to do the trick. The Yeasty line was originally intended to boost sales in the US, where it has been steadily losing ground to Nike and newer rival Under Amour. The Kenya collection has generated huge hype, but it didn’t appear to get together the prospect.