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Being a woman is not easy. Not easy at all. We are belittled for a plethora of reasons every day. Be it for wearing a simple, harmless garment like jeans to laughing too loud, the society is quick to show us our place.While men who rape and molest women are let off easily because they have a d**k, it is the victim who is blamed for wearing a skirt, stepping out of her house late in the evening, and having a vagina. So, basically it’s always the woman’s fault. Ladies, it’s not the just the world, who is harsh and cruel to us, it’s biology in general. And we have proof.
Aunty Flow Is a Boon And a Bane…..
Yes, periods are a normal part of every woman’s life. And that’s the catch. Only women. Men don’t menstruate because biologically they can’t get pregnant. The nature has not provided them with ovaries, a uterus, and eggs that end up on a sanitary pad every month.But, it’s not just the menstrual cycle we are complaining about. Along with it comes premenstrual syndrome (PMS), which leads to acne, cramps, headaches, fatigue, and mood swings. Now, imagine being called a moody b***h, when it’s actually your hormones who are to be blamed.
First-Time Sex Is Painful For Women…..
Don’t let novels and films fool you into believing that a million stars explode when you have sex for the first time. It is shit painful. Men feel a little bit of discomfort too–mostly because their skin stretches too. But the ordeal that women go through is something else. After all, men don’t have to take in a hard piece of flesh and a good pounding.
That Damn Virginity Test….
Now, this is totally unfair. There are tests that can find out if a woman is a virgin or not, but there is no such ground-breaking test for men. You don’t even need to go to a hospital to find out the truth. A broken hymen is proof enough. In fact, families in India end marriages over this trivial issue.
Women Are More Prone To STDs. Thank You Vagina…….
Courtesy of the female anatomy, women are more at the risk of sexually transmitted diseases. You see, our genitals are thinner and more delicate than male organs. Also, not to forget that the lady part down there has an opening that leads to a genital tract. This entry gives easy access to bacteria and viruses to proceed inside. And what do you get?
Pregnancy And Everything That Comes Along With It………..
Women are child bearers. They give birth to new life. The idealism is heart-touching. But, all the poets talking about the beauty of conceiving don’t know the horrors every pregnant woman has to go through.Apart from a bloated tummy, nausea, the need to pee frequently, constipation, and extreme cramps are an every day occurrence during pregnancies. And trust us, the pregnancy glow people keep talking about–that’s just a dream.
Boobs. Why do Women Need Them?…..
The sole reason why women have been bestowed with circular mounds of flesh is because they are biologically crafted to breastfeed. Yup, they are not just there for show.Not only women have to cage them in a bra for support all through their lives–which is very uncomfortable by the way–they also have to pay the price of having mammary glands. Did you know that women end up in severe pain while lactating if for some reason they can’t breastfeed? Not to forget the fever they find themselves in.
But, men they have no such troubles plaguing their lives.
When you were dating, you were the apple of her eye, but now you feel rotten. Take heart… you can learn how to be a better husband.
, what if you can’t seem to make your wife happy? Women are temperamental, emotional, and sometimes downright nasty creatures. However, once you are in love, they provide you with a fullness that you hadn’t ever known existed. If you can’t seem to get into her good graces lately, take heart. That can leave many men wondering how to be a better husband.
How to be a better husband ….. If you want to know how to be a better husband, it’s not that difficult. Pretty predictable creatures, what women want isn’t a diamond ring, a fairytale romance, or a guy who has millions in the bank *well at least not all of us*.
- Kiss her every morning.
Whatever she might be harboring inside will instantly melt when she feels your lips touch hers. A kiss will make her heart soar and tell her that there isn’t a person alive that you would rather wake up or lay down next to.
- Have heavy shoulders.
There are going to be times when she lashes out at you for absolutely no reason at all. If you overreact and meet her with similar behavior, it will probably end in a mountain that could have just been a mole hill. If she is having a bad day and taking it out on you, just ask her what the real problem is.
- Be protective.
For evolutionary reasons, men are the hunters, and women are the gatherers and homemakers. A woman needs to feel like she is being protected. That isn’t just about having the bat by your side if someone breaks in, in the middle of the night.
- Take something off her plate.
Whether she works outside the house or not, the majority of the household chores are probably her responsibility. The reason she might be in a bad mood is that she is way overworked and stressed out.
- Tend to her sexual needs.
It is easy to get into the habit of the big bang, especially when you have tight schedules or the potential for a baby to walk through the door at any minute. If you want to know how to be a better husband, you have to tend to her sexual desires and sometimes do things that are just for her.
(6)Remember the important things.
To guys, an anniversary or a birthday may just be another day. But, to a woman, those dates are important things. Women like to be fussed over once in a while. When you don’t acknowledge a special day, that gives her the impression that you don’t care enough to remember.
- Say thank you.
Sure, she does the laundry every day and picks your socks up off the floor. But, news flash, she doesn’t enjoy it, and it isn’t mandatory for her. When you do chores around the house for long enough, it just becomes something that people expect from you, and you are no longer appreciated.
8…. Tell her you love her.
Men aren’t always the most verbal creatures. Everyone speaks a different language of love. For some, doing things shows love. For others, buying gifts shows love. Most women need to hear “I love you” verbally. Don’t just assume she knows; tell her so.
9….. Send or leave her notes.
There is nothing that will brighten someone’s day more than to get little love messages from her husband. If you see something that reminds you of her, take a picture and send it with a caption. The key is to let her know that you are thinking of her throughout the day and that she is forever on your mind.]
10….. Take her out frequently.
When you become a couple, a lot of things change. It suddenly becomes much more comfortable and inexpensive to sit on the couch and watch a movie. Every woman wants to be wined and dined whether she is married or not.
Make sure to take her out to dinner or just for drinks. Getting dressed up and feeling like you are dating again can rekindle any relationship and is a great thing to do if you want to know how to be a better husband.
11… Surprise her.
Spontaneity is not easy to come by when you have a full life, a full-time job, and children. But, that doesn’t mean that every day should feel like Groundhog Day. If you notice that your wife is getting a little burnt out, surprise her with flowers or a nice gift just to make her smile.
If you want to get extra points, plan a vacation away for just the two of you. Typically, she has to make all the plans. If you take the lead and make arrangements, you will be the best husband ever.
Sometimes women feel like all we do is talk, and nothing ever gets absorbed. Show her that you are listening by engaging in the conversation… by talking. I know, exactly the opposite of what you would think. But, talking when she is talking shows her that you are attentive and listening not staring blankly from la-la land.
13…. Care about her day too.
Women are very empathetic creatures. Quite likely, she asks how your day was when you walk in the door. How often do you ask how her day went? Most guys omit the question thinking they are going to get a barrage list of bad things.
14…. Relish in her accomplishments.
Sometimes it is hard for a man to watch his wife be more successful in her career or to find success when they aren’t finding the same. The key to knowing how to be a better husband is to relish in her accomplishments and to let her know how very proud you are of her hard work.
15…Talk nicely about her to others.
Nothing makes a woman feel better than hearing you talking kindly about her. Sometimes it is uncomfortable to tell someone how you feel, that is why taking the opportunity to tell someone else when she is within earshot is an excellent way to make her feel good and tell her how you feel indirectly.
Boys, there’s nothing wrong with adding a dose of passion and fun to your relationship. While she may not care that you don’t have a romantic bone in your body, this is precisely why you should make the effort to show her that you can be sweet. Another night of Thai takeout and spending a Friday night on the couch isn’t going to cut it. Don’t ever let her go to bed wondering if she can do better. There are a myriad of flirty and romantic things that you can do to treat the woman of your dreams to an unforgettable time. All the effort that goes into doing these things will not only put a smile on her face.
Where to start – Sweet things you should do for your girl….
If you’re not the sort of couple that does these things, there’s no better time than the present to get the ball rolling. Trust in your ability to show her a good time, and I can guarantee you that both of you will end up having a blast. It doesn’t always cost money to have a great time. Sometimes, all it takes is a little effort and planning to create a momentous occasion. Put some effort into whatever you’re doing, and treat her like the dazzling goddess that she is. Here are some tips on how to be the flirtiest and romantic partner she has ever had the pleasure of calling hers.
*** 1 Bring her flowers. Whether you choose to hunt for her favorite flower *which, of course, is super rare and very expensive*, pick something pretty that’s in season, or even pick wildflowers by the side of the road, no girl will find fault with you for surprising her with flowers.
*** 2 personalize something. Everyone loves expensive gifts, but trust me when I say that your girl will appreciate something from the heart a lot more. So why not present her with something personalized to remind her of you? It could be a cheesy giant tea mug with your faces on it, or matching his and her phone cases.
*** 3 Plan a weekend escapade. Take charge and plan a weekend escapade. Don’t tell her where you’re going. Just give her basic details so she’ll know what to pack, and whisk her away for the weekend. Everything from a luxury satiation, to a quaint night at a B&B will rock her world.
*** 4 Surprise her with a class. Women love taking mindless classes—even more so when you take these classes with them. From salsa dancing to Ayurvedic healing seminars, sign both of you up for something she will enjoy.
*** 5 Travel far and wide with her. Initiate the first step and seal the deal by buying flight tickets in advance. This will let her know that you’re serious about the trip and she’ll eagerly plan everything else.
*** 6 Massage her. Everyone loves a good massage, so take it upon you to give her a foot rubs at the end of a long day. Throw in a back massage for good measure. Pick up tips on how to sensually massage her. Trust me when I say that it will turn her on.
*** 7 Cook for her. Even if you don’t know your way around the kitchen, and end up making her Mac and Cheese, she’ll love you for it. If you have some kitchen skills, plan, prep, and present a full course menu and you’ll have her eating out of the palm of your hand.
*** 8 Cook with her. She may be the savvy one in the kitchen, but there’s no reason why you can’t help her out. I’m sure you’ve seen those cheesy pictures next to articles like these that depict couples smiling and laughing in their kitchen. No reason why that can’t be you.
***9 Make a play list. Whip up a list of her favorite songs and upload it onto her phone. Start or end it with a sweet voice note from you. She’ll be pleasantly surprised the next time she turns on her music.
*** 10 Naughty lingerie. Be sure to pick out something luxurious, and not trashy. If you have no idea where to start, head to La Perl to get a sense of what fancy lingerie is all about.
*** 11 create a video. Forget about making a sex tape. Instead, create a video detailing your time together. You’ll find plenty of sweet ideas on You Tube. This project will take plenty of time on your part, so plan ahead and present it to her on a special occasion like her birthday or your anniversary.
*** 12 Surprise dinner with loved ones. She’ll adore you for getting everyone she loves under one roof. Steer clear if you’re not already married, as she may think that you’re going to propose. You can also opt to save it for a special occasion if you don’t want her getting the wrong idea.
*** 13 Plan a girl’s trip for her. I’m sure she loves her girls, so why not plan a girl’s trip or girl’s night out for her? Get into cahoots with her friends and plan something amazing. Surprise them with champagne at the hotel, restaurant, or club.
*** 14 Cuddle often. Whether it’s on the couch watching a Game of Thrones marathon, or on the bus heading to the store, make an effort to get close and cuddle her. Women love being touched, so indulge her, won’t you?
*** 15 send her love messages. She knows that you love her, but why not put it into words? Send her love emails or messages at random times of the day just to let her know you’re thinking of her. My partner puts little love notes in my suitcase every time I head off on a trip, and I can’t tell you how nice it is being surprised at the end of a 22-hour journey.
*** 16 buy her macaroons. From cheesecake and truffles, to dark chocolate and ice cream, there’s a whole world of fancy sweet treats just waiting for you to take them home to her.
*** 17 clean up the house. Whether you live together or not, she will love you for it. As an added bonus, draw her bath and let her relax in the tub while you break your back vacuuming.
*** 18 Offer to help her with errands. Time is a luxury, so why not treat her to it? Offer to run some errands for her while she kicks back with a good book. From taking the cat to the vet, to heading to the post office, do whatever you can to lighten her load.
*** 19 kiss her for no reason. You don’t need a reason to show her that you love her, so indulge in kisses, hugs, and squeeze any chance you get.
*** 20 Organize cocktail night. Why not bring the bar to her? Head out for ingredients, invite some friends over *or keep it low key with just the two of you* and play bartender. Be a sweetheart and whip up bespoke cocktails all night long.
*** 21 join her during her beauty routine. I love it when my partner takes off his man cape and plays lady with me. Join her for her weekly face mask and foot scrub routine to get a giggle out of her.
*** 22 play out a kidnap routine. Kidnap her after a long day at work, blindfold her, and drive her to her favorite restaurant for a surprise treat.
*** 23 dedicate a love song on air. Think of it as a throwback surprise. No one really listens to the radio anymore, and that’s why this idea is perfect. On her drive home from work, tell her to tune in to a particular station, and let her enjoy the sweet dedication made out to her.
*** 24 play to your strengths. If you have a way with words, write her a love letter. If you can sing, sing her a love song. If you are good with music, compose a love tune. If you’re outdoorsy, take her on a hike and at the top, surprise her with a picnic lunch. There are a billion ways that you can play to your strengths, so get creative and just do it.Guys trust me when I say that no matter how simple or extravagant your gesture of love is, she will adore you for it. Women love being pampered and shown that you love them.
Sometimes, this is, quite simply, something that can’t be helped. Physiological issues with erectile dysfunction are common enough among men in general, and need the attention of a specialist. However, what is even more frustrating for them is when it’s actually down to the technique of the woman in question. Even the most beautiful females can get it wrong in the bedroom department, and this can lead to erection disaster.
#1 under pressure. The amount of pressure a woman applies to the male genitalia during fore or after play is extremely important. Too much pressure and you throttle the life out of it, sending it surely and swiftly on its way towards flaccidity.
However, the opposite can often be said to be true also, with too little pressure having a similar effect, desensitizing the penis to the point of numbness and encouraging low blood flow – basically like giving it a massage.
Your best bet, if unsure, is to alternate the amount of pressure applied, in order to keep the man’s awareness of your ministrations.
#2 talking it through. Talking through a fantasy whilst making love is a common method that couples use to spice things up in the bedroom. However, make sure you have mentioned your fantasy to the guy before you get it on, in order to ensure that he’s up for it.
Launching into a lust-fuelled diatribe mid-act about how you want to spank him with a dead parrot is unlikely to solicit anything but a swift escape and a change of phone number!]
#3 changing gear. Whether he has a favorite sexual position or not, sticking to the one method of making love will eventually become quite boring for the man involved, and that may bore him into an advanced state of floppiness. However, the opposite can also be true.
If, in a desperate attempt to make things seem more exciting, you manage to make your way through the entire Karma Sutra in five and a half minutes, then you may just tire him out and possibly also exclude him from any emotional attachment. Both may lead to a decline in erectile fortunes!
#4 It’s all about him. Well, “It shouldn’t be.” is the short reply to this one. If you’re not in the mood, but you magnanimously decide to let him have his way, your benevolence may just backfire on you. There are many cues and keys that men and women both need during sex to enjoy it fully: scent, sight, sound, etc.
If any of these are missing, he may subconsciously pick up on the fact that you’re just doing it for him, and his Coast Redwood will turn swiftly into a Weeping Willow. If you’re not in the mood, then work out some way to get in the mood, or give it a miss until another time.
#5 Bottoms up! There’s a lot of stuff out there written on blogs and magazines encouraging men to embrace a new sexual world – new positions, new roles, new toys, etc. One such area is that of anal stimulation. Yes, it is a very sensitive area *heehaw*, and more and more couples are opening up to the idea of mutual anal play.
However, do be aware that many men are still very traditional when it comes to bedroom pursuits, and lunging towards them with a sex toy the size of a telegraph pole is about as effective a way of helping them maintain an erection as would a hastily thrown bucket of ice-cold water.
You may want to go in slowly and gradually on this one, if at all, and try to be sensitive to how open they seem to taking it any further.
#6 I’ll blow your house down. Blow jobs: a man’s best friend and a girl’s best weapon. However, there are ladies out there, and this is true, who think that when you give a blow job, you actually do blow.
I hate to break it to those sorry souls, but the term is a very misleading one, and should really be called a suck job. A man’s penis is no way similar to a balloon, and it inflates because of an increased localized blood flow – not because you’re keeping it up with clumsily administered huffs and puffs!
#7 All tied up. BDSM, standing for Bondage, Domination, Sadism, and Masochism is another sexual pursuit that seems to have made it onto the couple’s common bedroom to-do list. Again though, make sure your partner is up for it before proceedings begin.
Waking up tied to the bed and confronted by a gimp mask-wearing, whip-wielding, leather-clad thing of nightmares is less likely to produce a prompt and reliable erection, than it is a restraining order from the male in question’s lawyer.
#8 Mr. Ed. Kissing is not usually something that men particularly get much sexual satisfaction from, although there are exceptions. But bad kissing is a turn off for men and women both. Nothing is more likely to wilt a formerly rampant erection than the slobbering lips and tongue of a woman who seems to have suddenly turned into a comedy TV horse. Make sure your technique is up to scratch.
#9 Ménage a trios. You may be wondering why this is on the list. Surely a threesome is a major male fantasy and extremely conducive towards helping him reach his own particular heights? Well yes, if the third member is a stunning young thing dressed in stockings, suspenders and heels that could skewer a tiger shark.
However, if the third member HAS a member, then this surprise inclusion may have the unwarranted effect of sending him softer than a marshmallow on a hot summer’s day.
#10 Role plays. Most couples like to indulge in a little role play from time to time: the naughty schoolgirl and the teacher, the speeding motorist and the saucy police woman, the doctor and his patient – you know this kind of thing, I’m sure. Do stick to fairly tried and tested scenarios, however.
My grandmother, who is approximately 80 now, has some gravely peculiar stories to tell about her relationship with my grandfather. I say odd, because it is hard to fathom how writing letters to each other was the only saving grace of their love story back after that.
My mother’s courtship period stories sound a tad bit more believable in comparison, considering that my dad was allowed to call on her landline once a day so they could talk for an hour.
My best friend, who is 23, has a completely different story to tell. Being in a relationship with a guy, whom she cannot meet as often as she likes to, her romance works on calling, Skipping, testing, and well-sexing.
Now I am too old-school to get my head around this concept of exchanging nude photographs and “sexy” messages with your partner, but I’ve heard a lot of people talk about it–mostly because they are confused about whether or not it is the “right” thing to do.
Just do what ‘feels’ right. I’d say, go with your gut here. You know your partner, you know what kind of a person he is, you know whether you can trust him with something as personal as–your sexually explicit pictures.
Take your own sweet time to be sure of it though. Don’t rush into things ‘in the heat of the moment’ because…
Sharing is not always Caring
not to sound stereotypical here, but initiating sexing usually is a guy thing. However, emotionally blackmailing you to reciprocate is an asshole thing, to be honest. If he loves you, he won’t pressurize you into doing something that’s beyond your comfort. If he does, he’s just being a selfish douche bag.
So if you are doing it just to make HIM happy, then maybe instead of nervously contemplating the right angle of your sulfide, think about dumping his selfish ass on a pretty darn serious note.
A relationship is a two-way street, remember? You BOTH do things to make EACH OTHER happy.
Even if it GENUINELY Feels Right, Be Cautious No one is questioning your partner’s love for you here. But I’ve seen the most committed men, turning into vicious monsters post a bitter break up.
Every human being, irrespective of their gender, is at their sweetest-best when in love; but things change, and you never know what extent people may stoop to.
After all, those cases of circulating nude pictures of an ex or leaking them online or simply blackmailing to do so; that we keep hearing of so often–do happen. And they can happen to anyone.
Firstly, use the right mobile application for sexting. There is a reason why apps like Snapchat emphasise on ‘living in the moment’ and have no option of saving any snaps, unlike those typical messengers that save them.
Secondly, avoid showing your face or any other identifiable features, because you know what? No matter which app you use, taking screenshots is still a thing.
Lastly, check and double-check the recipient of those pictures. I understand that our wisdom gets clouded in ‘those’ moment but you really don’t want the wrong people to see those personal pictures, right? So be careful while marking the recipients and save yourself the embarrassment.
In the matters of the heart, sometimes, you’ve got to use your grey matter too. Because–better safe than sorry.