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Ladies, this is a common thing! Men sending dick selfish. But why do they do it? What do they get out of it? And should we even respond?
It’s not a secret, everyone sends nude picks. You could be a mom of three or single, and you still, at some point, sent nude picks. However, it’s different than when a guy sends dick selfish. Women do it because men are visual. It gives ladies a chance to explore their own sensuality, but what about men? Why do they do it? Despite their rugged exteriors, manliness, and overall lack of sharing feelings comfortably, men still need to feel wanted by someone, just like women. They want to feel capable of arousing someone, but also desire a sense of validation.
Much the same way women feel good when complimented on their size or bust size, men feel great when they get complimented on their dick size.
Dick selfish and what they mean
Of course, there are more reasons. Let’s consider all the angles, and how to respond to the guys who send them to you.
1…. they’re horny.
They think looking at it turns you on. Either go along with it if you feel like having fun, or ignore it if he’s bad news. You know the thing men do when they stand directly in front of you, naked; thinking a dick in your face during Renews turns you on? This is the indirect equivalent. He seriously thinks it gets you to play along, either by sending nudes or having phone sex. At the very least, sexing, for sure. If he’s your boyfriend, or just someone you want to have fun with *hopefully you’ve made that clear, and it’s a mutual thing*, then go right ahead. Consider it a funny way to spark things, even if the picture really doesn’t do anything for you *see #2*.If he’s bad news, delete the picture, and block the guy, otherwise he won’t leave you alone. And don’t show your girlfriends and make a joke out of the guy. Be a lady.
2….. They think you work the same way as them.
He thinks you’ll use it to masturbate. Since it’s meant in good faith, go ahead and thank and compliment him, even if you don’t use it *you won’t*. Moment of truth ladies, a man could have the nicest penis in the world, but chances are it does nothing for you in image form *differs by girl, but this is the most common reaction*.Unless it’s there, in the room with you, and attached to the right guy, you probably could care less if he dressed it up in a tuxedo and sent you a picture of it. In male world, this means he wants you to have a good time, using the little *no pun intended* gem he sent.If he’s a good guy, your boyfriend maybe, thank him, compliment him, and send something sexy back. Even if you don’t use it, he doesn’t have to know. Plus, just get off to him getting off to you.
3… No, really, the whole size thing is a big thing.
React to his size the same way you’d like people to react to your breast size. Yes, even if it isn’t big at all. Some men, usually younger men *teenagers, young adults, men with little-to-no experience, or even older men with baggage* tend to be insecure about their dick size. Yes, men experience body issues, much like women, but they don’t show that to the world at large.
4…. He wants to take your relationship to the next level and bares himself.
So, you see what he has “to offer.” Of course, this is the wrong way to do it. They probably aren’t in it for the long haul, so keep this in mind. This is the typical sleazy, fraternity guy. Oh, he’s done with college? No, he isn’t–not mentally. He still very much tries to get you, and those other five girls he sent the same exact picture to, to sleep with him. He isn’t a quality guy, made clear by the fact prior to this; he showed no indication of really “getting serious.” A gentleman treats you like the princess you are, holds off on the sexy time until you allow it to get to that point. Now, if you saw no signs of seriousness, and led him on, then you got these pictures because you made it seem like you were his female equivalent. Either joins in on the “fun” knowing all this very well is true, or just ignores him. If he persists, block him and hope you didn’t tell him where you work. Chances are, even if you did, he either doesn’t remember, or doesn’t care, since he’s got roughly five to seven girls he’s messing around with.
5….. You’re in a long-distance relationship, and he’s looking for a way to keep the fire alive.
If this is the case, please your man! Send some nude picks back. This is one of those silly, sweet things that not every relationship experiences. For couples who live in the same general area, sending nudes and sexing is one of those things that you either never do, because you’re older or prefer the real thing, or you do it when you’re in the early stages of the relationship. It fizzles out. Later on you get to do it how you want, whenever you want, wherever *within reason* you want, and those pictures do nothing for you anymore. But for those who live far away from their partners, this is ideal to keep your sex life as intact as possible.Hot pictures, sexing, dirty phone calls, and Skye calls are long distance relationship savers. If this is your situation, please your man, send some back, get nasty!
6….. Trying to spice things up.
Keep it going and see what happens! It could also be for people who simply want to spice things up for no reason other than they feel like it. Or the couples who have been together for years, and simply haven’t kept that passionate, sexual fire lit as well as they could have.Whatever the reason, it’s possible the guy wants to liven things up a bit, and enjoy some quality time being naughty with you. Keep it going, see what happens! At some point, he could say some pretty amazing things if you say the right words.
7…. He is reciprocating from your nude picks.
This is him being a gentleman, so be a lady and thank him. If you sent the man some gorgeous pictures of yourself, then he obviously enjoyed them. He’s sending you some back! This is him being grateful and showing he likes you too. Keep things going, say something dirty, ask for something specific, or let him ask for something specific. This isn’t a losing situation, since you sent the pictures first, and he clearly loved it.
8…. You asked for it.
If you do like it, then you’ll know how to respond, but if you don’t, then stop asking for the dick picks. If you read point two, most women don’t actually get off by a penis picture. Unlike men, women aren’t as visual, but rather, we need to be in the right frame of mind *dirty thoughts*. A man who talks dirty to us, and looks at us with lustful eyes is more likely to get laid than a man who sends the dick sulfide with a winking emboli.
9…. They want to flaunt it to you, and whoever else they can manage.
Delete the dick selfish and block the guy. Unlike guy number four, this guy didn’t so much as do anything that indicated friendship or even entertainment. This particular guy is the one who doesn’t care to even talk to you again, doesn’t care if you don’t sleep with him, doesn’t care about anything, because he “knows” he’s got an “amazing” dick, and simply wants to show it off.This is the equivalent of the girls that show way too much skin on purpose, because they think they’re capable of getting anything and anyone they want.
10… He’s done it in every other relationship before.
Or he’s inexperienced, and thinks that’s also what he has to do. What men don’t realize, and what’s been said twice in this feature already, is those words get a woman wet, but dick selfish generally don’t. If the guy is super inexperienced, he might think this is what needs to be done. If he’s had experience, but he’s been with girls who wanted dick pictures, or girls that never directed him accordingly, then he’s going to assume you want to get dick pictures.
Despite the welcome sight of a man’s dick if you’re about to get hot and heavy, it’s not all that exciting to see over a text. Dick selfish and penis pictures do less for a woman, generally, than words will, especially if they get really detailed.
Still confused about what thin privilege means? Here’s the skinny on what being thin means in society and some examples of thin privilege. Have you ever felt like you were given more or less opportunities in life based on the way you look? If so, you’re not alone. The internet is abuzz with the opinion that skinny girls are getting away with far too much based on their weight, whereas their fuller-figured counterparts are getting the bad end of the deal. This buzzword is called thin privilege. If you’re not yet aware of the social media phenomenon that is thin privilege *or should I say social media phenomenon*, then prepare to be enlightened. The term thin privilege refers to the privileges thin people receive in society strictly based on their size. The website, “This Is Thin Privilege,” refers to it in this quote: “Lowest difficult setting of body size.”
Odds are that nobody is going to come up and slam you for your choice in groceries if you are thin. Whether your cart is filled with green veggies and hummus, or bags of chips and soda, the likelihood is absolutely miniscule that anyone is paying attention to what’s in your grocery cart.
Opposite of this, reports abound of overweight individuals innocently minding their own business at the grocery store when immature patrons come up and look through their carts. The goal? To fish out unhealthy snacks and food items to ridicule them with. Rude, much? The argument here is that no one will ever look at a thin person and make assumptions about how unhealthy they are based on weight. Peoplewigenerally assume that thinner people take care of their bodies, exercise, and eat right. I do not find this rumor to be true, and have witnessed many thin people being ridiculed for their small size and told that they are unhealthy because of their appearance. Granted, heavier people most definitely have it worse in this department. Having things thrown at you, your health status assumed, being called out publicly, and having who you are as a person completely disregarded because of a person’s weight, is wrong and disgusting on so many levels. The fight against fat-shaming and thin privilege rages on over the internet. Skinnier girls argue that #honormycurves is offensive to naturally-born thin women; while bigger girls argue that skinnier girls don’t know what real offense feels like. I assure you, thin privilege exists, but that doesn’t mean thin-shaming doesn’t. Can we all just agree that nobody should be mocked or made to feel bad about them based on their appearance? Body shaming goes both ways.
Be it judgment someone who matches your frequency; handling those nosy neighborhood aunties; or even telling your mom about the person you keep talking to on the phone–dating is a difficult work. When I came out of the closet and decided that there was no going back for me, I really thought it’d be easy to find love and companionship. Sure, I wasn’t going to be able to tell that straight girl in my class that I’ve had the biggest ever crush on her; but I was hopeful that I’d find more women like me.
Actually, I had no thought that such a circle even existed until I decided to try online dating. The first website that I signed up for, and let me tell you I have tried quite a handful of them, was Occupied. Occupied is one the straightest dating forums you will ever come across. Still, I hoped to find at least a few friends who fell on the rainbow spectrum, if not love.The world of online dating can be really tricky, especially for a newly-out queer person. There are so many men, of course heterosexual, who pretend to be a woman just so that they can catfish the newbie’s.
You see the problem with straddling the world of romance for the first time–gay or otherwise–is the naiveté that comes along with it. Yes, I was naive, so I often ended up talking to the men behind the fake profiles only to have my heart broken.
Since clearly I wasn’t having any luck online, I decided to wait for the Delhi Queer Pride Parade and the plethora of LGBT events that happen periodically in the city. I made a few friends there, but love still eluded me. After what seems like ages, I met my now ex partner on Occupied. Although that relationship didn’t work out like I thought it would, it still gave me hope that all might not be lost when it comes to online d
Then I entered the age of Tinder. Even though I wasn’t sold on the idea of judging someone by their bio and a few pictures, I still gave it a shot. After a lot swiping left and right–and being thoroughly confused about the whole concept of swiping–I ended up talking to a few very nice women. They were women for sure this tie-On, did I mention that I am socially awkward? It doesn’t mix well with dating–in real life or online. So, my Tinder escapades never went beyond a few “Hi there” and “What’s up” conversations.
The thing is my social awkwardness isn’t the only hurdle between me and the cupid’s arrow. It’s also about how small the pool of potential partners is for me. Firstly, there aren’t many openly gay women out there, and I’m definitely not ready to date someone who is closeted–I don’t think I’d be able to handle that kind of a pressure or be someone’s secret.
Secondly, most of the women who are out are either too young or too old. I’m not trying to say that it’s absolutely a deal breaker or that age matters that much to me–after all it’s just a number. But it’s striking an emotional and intellectual chord that poses a challenge.The third, and the most disconcerting problem is, how utterly incestuous the circle appears to me. Imagine all the people you know, including those you are interested in. Now, factor in the fact that each one of them have either dated or has had some kind of a history with the others.
To be honest, I can’t deal with that kind of baggage.Even if you take away all these problems, and visualize an idyllic world where I end up meeting openly-gay women of my age and intellect, with absolutely no history with my friends or ex-partners–you can’t ignore the homophobic society we live in. The thing is in a society that criminalize love and sexuality, and where it’s tough being a woman–let alone queer–finding love or even a date is a far cry.
Yet, I am confident. I am hopeful I will find someone. Or maybe, just muster up the courage to tell my crush how I feel about her! I have my fingers cross.
Let’s not fuck approximately. The holidays could not be more upon us and you’re obviously reading this because you have no idea what to get your friends and family. So let me break it down for you in terms of your best bets for classy as shit gifts you can get for your friends who deserve lure gifts.
I know it might seem like a candle would suffice but come on, they’re your loved ones, which is why I know they deserve the best of the best. But also I know you are down to the wire so let’s just get down to it and get you gifting stuff they’ll open and be like, “OMG! You definitely didn’t forget about this/me until like 3 days ago!”
Granted, some of these aren’t necessarily available in stores near you, so it might be too late to ship, but, come on, I came up with all of these, so you can figure out how to get them in time or just give them to them late. It’s fine.
Here are my fives.
Peritonea MD Cocoa Moisture Mask
Dr. Periscope’s products are always super extra anyway, but this new mask uses cocoa-enriched (hello) microcapsules to provide an intense boost of hydration, allowing skin to immediately look and feels firmer and more hydrated. Plus, chocolate, did I mention chocolate? Cool.
Black Phoenix Alchemy Lab Egg Nag Perfume
If you have a friend who loves crazy perfumes and also the holidays, why not spoil them with a weirdo perfume that smells like delicious seasonal beverages? Also, BPAL has some of my favorite all-time fragrances in general and introduced an entire seasonal line, so the options for “yay, it smells like the holidays” gift fragrances are pretty lengthy.
Flirt Cosmetics False Lashes Applicator
If you have a friend who loves doing fake eyelashes, this lash applicator unit holds 40 lash buds, giving you instant, colorful party glam without the sticky nightmare it usually involves. So cool.
This Works Hand Makeover
For all your friends whose hands are looking jacked by winter, this trio of hard-working hand creams provide intense moisture, with anti-aging blends of rose and mimosa, vitamin e and blackcurrant oil, and retinol and botanical oils respectively. They’ll be looking human in no time.
Peoria Restore Your Radiance Collection
If you have a friend who loves fancy plant origin stem cells and wants to look energized and chill, this luxury gift box featuring said cells oughtta do it.
Characteristics of an omega male
Unfortunately, humans pretty much revere the alpha male. For example, who is the best and most popular player on a football team? The kicker? No. The quarterback. He is the leader of the team. He is the brains behind all the plays. Everyone knows the quarterback’s name. But does anyone know the kicker’s name? Probably not.
Most of us have heard of an alpha male, but do you know what an omega male is? This type of guy doesn’t get much attention, but he’s awesome anyway.
Usually when we think of the male species, we think of strength, competition, domination, and leadership. However, there are many kinds of guys who don’t fit into those stereotypes. Because of this, they don’t get talked about very often.
Types of males
Not all men and not all women are the same, although society would like to make us think so. Therefore, it’s really important for all of us to get familiar with the different nuances that make people more unique, regardless of their gender. So, let’s talk about two of the basic types of males, according to mainstream society.
** Laid back. The alpha male is extroverted, charismatic, and the life of the party. But the omega male is much more laid back and even-keeled. He doesn’t get riled up very much. He just lets things roll off his shoulders and isn’t in the mindset to “fight” for anything. Instead of making waves, he would just rather shrug and walk the other way.
** Gentle. Because they’re not as dominant and seemingly testosterone-filled as the alpha male, they tend to be gentler in relationships. They might be the guy who rubs your shoulders after a hard day at work.
** Kind. The omega male is not busy trying to show off and be “the man of the hour,” so he is a little more focused on other people. If you need someone to help you move, you should ask an omega male.
He will help you not because he wants to be seen as the hero, but rather because he is kind. He will help old ladies cross the streets and ouch and abash at babies. How cute is that?
** Empathetic. If you’re seeing a pattern here, you’re right. Being empathetic means that a person can identify with what someone else is going through. And it goes beyond sympathy *feeling sorry for someone*. Instead, the omega male has a much better ability to try to see reality through someone else’s eyes. This is not a quality that many alpha males possess.
** Prefer deep relationships. An omega male will not have a ton of friends. Because he is introverted and prefers to spend a lot of time alone, he will likely not have a long list of friends on his social media accounts *if he is even on social media*.
He likes long, deep conversations. He prefers trustworthy, life-long friends who he knows he can count on. Anyone else is just an annoyance to him.
**wants to work on his own. The omega male will have friends and close acquaintances, but he likes to work alone. Whether it’s in his profession or on a more personal level, he doesn’t like to belong to a clique or a group. Since he doesn’t have a desire to be the leader or to stand out, why bother belonging to a group?
** Not much of an ego. An alpha male is really concerned with how everyone else views them. Because of that, they always want to pump up their ego. This includes boasting about their accomplishments and anything related to that. But the omega male doesn’t care.
They might still accomplish just as much as the alpha male *or even more*, but other people may never know. He won’t announce it on Face book or Twitter. And maybe he won’t even tell his closest friends. He doesn’t need the recognition or notoriety to pump up his ego.
** Introverted. Typically, the omega male is somewhat of an introvert. Unlike his alpha male counterpart, he doesn’t need to be the life of the party. He doesn’t need all the attention on him. In fact, being in a crowd or the person everyone is paying attention to drains his energy.
Instead, the omega male prefers to be alone a lot of the time. He recharges when he is in his own element, rather than out among people trying to prove that he is top dog. He simply has no interest in that.
** Alpha male. The alpha male is your stereotypical “cave man” kind of guy. He wants to stand out in a crowd and be the one who everyone pays attention to. He must be the strongest, the fastest, the smartest, and just the overall best. In a word… he’s competitive to the max. Think of a pack of wolves. The “top dog” is the alpha male.
** Omega male. Unlike the alpha male, the beta male avoids risk and confrontation. In fact, they have a bit of distaste for the alpha males. While they can have a confidence similar to the alpha male, they don’t need to be the center of attention.
They are just content to not be the one who stands out, and they don’t have a need to compete with other males to be the best.